A Good Woman Is Hard To Find

Can you find a good woman? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Ecclesiastes 7 ends this way:

25 I turned my heart to know and to search out and to seek wisdom and the scheme of things, and to know the wickedness of folly and the foolishness that is madness. 26 And I find something more bitter than death: the woman whose heart is snares and nets, and whose hands are fetters. He who pleases God escapes her, but the sinner is taken by her. 27 Behold, this is what I found, says the Preacher, while adding one thing to another to find the scheme of things— 28 which my soul has sought repeatedly, but I have not found. One man among a thousand I found, but a woman among all these I have not found. 29 See, this alone I found, that God made man upright, but they have sought out many schemes.

Whoa. Is this misogyny? Is the Teacher coming out as a woman-hater?

If so, this would be hard to mesh with Proverbs and Song of Songs both. There is definitely no lack of love for the woman in Song of Songs. Proverbs 5 tells a man to delight in the wife of his youth and drink eagerly of lovemaking with her. Proverbs 18:22 says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. We all know of the praise of the noble wife in Proverbs 31. Even at places in Ecclesiastes, the Teacher tells a man to enjoy his wife.

Looking closer at the verses, the Teacher is not saying all women are like this, but he has found a woman like this. Does this indicate a tabloid account of a relationship going on behind the scenes where the Teacher speaks of a particularly vile woman? Probably not. If we look at the language, it parallels a woman in the book of Proverbs. Proverbs has two women in it Lady Wisdom and Lady Folly. The Teacher has given a good description of Folly and what happens to those who go her way.

What about that last verse? This is just what the Teacher says is his experience. He found one man in a multitude who could help him, but not a single woman. Considering men were usually the most educated back then, this is not a surprise. Both men and women get knocked down here. Finding someone wise is extremely difficult and finding Wisdom Herself is apparently more so.

Also in all of this, the Teacher asks hard questions. Why is man good? What benefit does he get? Why should he not scheme? He considers being good the better and following wisdom preferable, but he still asks the question. The reason this is a question is as I have been suggesting throughout this, the Teacher is looking at this apart from divine revelation. If all we have is this life, then why not? You only live once so go for all that you can get. Right? The Teacher doesn’t think so, but he struggles to state why that is.

We’ll see what we find on this as we keep going through the book.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Gaining Wisdom

How do you get wise? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Recently, I was watching an episode of Million Dollar Password, with one contestant being someone who had three Guinness records for youngest to graduate from high school and college.

He still lost. He didn’t even qualify for the main game.

Of course, that could be because he’s teamed up with a celebrity, but also because sometimes people can be really intelligent and miss out on simple things everyone else catches on to.

So let’s compare that with the Teacher today. in Ecclesiastes 7:23-24.

23 All this I have tested by wisdom. I said, “I will be wise,” but it was far from me. 24 That which has been is far off, and deep, very deep; who can find it out?

I do hold the Teacher is Solomon, but to show no bias here throughout these posts, I simply refer to him as the Teacher. Even if he is not, I am sure most critics would say he at least was writing in the guise of Solomon. After all, he describes himself as the king of Jerusalem and as someone very wise. Who else comes to mind but Solomon?

Solomon is the guy who was told by God that his wisdom would not be matched by anyone before or after. (Hyperbole of course. Jesus had far greater wisdom as He literally IS God’s Wisdom.) Imagine being told that and yet you describe wisdom as something far from you.

Yet Solomon does just that.

Proverbs tells us that the Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. It could be Solomon wrote this after his numerous relationships and his apostasy and realized he did not fear God. He writes the book as a sort of message of regret. He realizes what he missed. When one strays from fearing God, they start going against wisdom.

Wisdom also comes from living by it. The more your practice and cultivate wisdom, the more you will develop. That can also include listening to those who are wiser than you. If you read this blog and admire my work, please understand that I have plenty of people that I admire and I try to learn from them. If I have something I’m curious about and a professor comes by the Post Office, I don’t hesitate to ask them about it.

This also entails reading good books. Read material that will stretch you and make you grow. Read also material that you disagree with. You can learn something from it. Maybe you are wrong and reading the other side will point that out. Maybe you are not, but as you read the other side, you do see cracks in your own position you need to work on or have a better refinement of your system. If your goal is truth, you win either way.

Our world is struggling with a lack of wisdom. We have learned that we can have all access to knowledge, but if we do not have the wisdom to use it, that knowledge could be more destructive than helpful.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Sometimes It’s Best To Not Listen

Is there a time to not listen? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

We’re going to look at Ecclesiastes 7:19-22 today.

19 Wisdom gives strength to the wise man more than ten rulers who are in a city.

20 Surely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins.

21 Do not take to heart all the things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you. 22 Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others.

For the first two verses, the Teacher always seems to prefer wisdom to foolishness. On the other hand, his second sentence here could be answered, “Actually, there is.” There has only been one and the world crucified Him.

As for the last part, we have been told most of our lives to listen to others. However, there is a time when one should not listen. It is not as simple as “Never listen to your critics.” After all, the wise man will accept rebuke when it is given. We will have critics and sometimes we should listen to them.

One time to not listen would be when you have no business listening in on someone. I remember growing up seeing a device you could use to listen to things at a distance that you cannot hear easily. For some scenarios, this could work well. If you are in a church service or a classroom or anywhere where you are hearing one person and you’re just not close enough, you can listen in that way.

However, there are other times you shouldn’t be. The commercial showed a guy working out at a gym using the device to listen in on a conversation between two women where they’re talking about him and praising him as being attractive. That sounds good and can sell devices, but what if it was the other way around? You would know that they were giving their honest opinion as they have no idea that you are listening in. What do you do then?

Second, there are critics who do not know what they’re talking about. These people want to insult you just for the sake of insulting you. In ancient Greece, there were people called Sophists who would get up one day and argue for X and it would be a persuasive talk. The next day, they could get up and argue for non-X just as persuasively.

Online, there are people we all call trolls who want to just get under the skin of people and they will say things they don’t even believe. The whole purpose is just to get a rise out of people. This is a scenario where the more people react, the more that they get what they react to.

While there are no 100% clear and fast rules, I consider these valid general guidelines. Wisdom will tell you that there are times you should not listen to critics as they don’t know what they’re talking about. However, if they do not know what they’re talking about, and especially so if they care about you, listen. They may not be right, but at least consider what they say.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Don’t Overdo It

How should you live? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Ecclesiastes 7:15-18 is a rather difficult read:

15 In my vain life I have seen everything. There is a righteous man who perishes in his righteousness, and there is a wicked man who prolongs his life in his evildoing. 16 Be not overly righteous, and do not make yourself too wise. Why should you destroy yourself? 17 Be not overly wicked, neither be a fool. Why should you die before your time? 18 It is good that you should take hold of this, and from that withhold not your hand, for the one who fears God shall come out from both of them.

What? Is the Teacher actually telling people to not be overly wicked? Is he saying “Be somewhat wicked. A little bit is okay. Throw some spice into your life that way.”?

I don’t think so. I think right off, what he is saying is there are no guarantees. You can be a righteous person and die young. Because you are righteous, it does not  mean that you will find favor in this life. On the other hand, being wicked doesn’t mean you will live to be 100. Sometimes wicked people do die because of their wickedness, by putting themselves in situations where they pay for the consequences of their actions.

It does not matter how wise you are. You cannot tell what will happen in any life. You can see a person who is righteous and having a great life and the next day they are hit by a car and die. You can see a person who is wicked and doing self-destructive behaviors and somehow they cheat death numerous times and die of natural causes at an old age. Life is strange. There is no such thing as karma.

But that doesn’t answer what is being said.

For the wicked, I think he’s saying, “If you want to walk the path of wickedness, at least try to have some sense. Don’t put yourself in stupid positions. Your arrogance will overtake you.”

However, for the righteous, I think he has something to say to people like myself who are overly scrupulous and can make a big deal out of any perceived wrong. (Think also of how much Martin Luther went to confession for everything.) He warns us to not overdo things to the point that we cannot even function. The Pharisees were also people who tried to be righteous in everything and yet they were the ones in the wrong in the end.

The Teacher’s preference lies with those who are on the side of righteousness as he says fearing God will deliver you from both errors. Walking in wisdom can help you see when things matter and when they do not. If you come here wanting to find specific answers, you won’t. This is part of the struggle that we have in our day and age where we think we should have a clear answer to every question. (Another reason I think people think God is telling them stuff. They think they have to have clear answers instead of using wisdom. That could also explain why it’s not found so much today.)

Next time, we’ll talk about listening to others and when to not do so.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

They’re Both From God

What do we accept from God? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

In Ecclesiastes 7:14 we read:

In the day of prosperity be joyful, and in the day of adversity consider: God has made the one as well as the other, so that man may not find out anything that will be after him.

We live in an age of entitlement. I find it amazing that there are people in third-world countries and in communist dictatorships and Muslim theocracies who are Christians and suffering greatly and are more committed to Jesus, but Christians over here struggle if someone insults us on Facebook. We somehow got this idea that if we are Christians, life should be easier, when Jesus promised the exact opposite.

Also, I’m not saying I’m much better a lot of the times.

Sometimes I hear people saying about how they think God answered a prayer and how do they know? Because things turned out well. Wait and see. Sometimes, what turns out well at the start could lead to a disaster in the end. This includes that God is giving me a green light in my personal decision if I feel a peace about it. (Pray tell where that shows up in Scripture!) If anything, I would contend that if you’re doing the right thing, many times you won’t have peace about it. You could have a lot of anxiety about it because it could be sacrifical.

I do not think this verse is saying God is directly causing things to happen in your life, but it is saying that if good times come into your life, it is because God has allowed that to happen. When it does, rejoice. There is no sin in enjoying life.

However, remember that Job said that we should not accept just good from the Lord but trouble also. If trouble comes into your life, accept it. God has allowed it for a reason just as much. If faithfulness to Jesus only extends when good things happen in your life, then you are not really serving Jesus for Him. You are serving Him so you can enjoy benefits. When the benefits leave, so do you.

This is also the question of the book of Job. Many of us think that the question is why do bad things happen to good people. The problem is that if you look all throughout the book, you will not find one answer to why bad things happen to good people. Instead, the real question of Job comes from the accuser at the beginning. “Does Job serve God for nothing?’

If Job only served God for the blessings as the accuser said, then he would have abandoned YHWH and “cursed God and died” as his wife suggested, right at the start. He did not. He sought an audience with God to plead his case, yes, but he never abandoned God ultimately. Job passed the test. Job was faithful even when that faith seemed to gain him nothing.

Whatever is going on in your life, consider it. If it is good, enjoy it. If it is hard, use it as an opportunity to grow in faith and cling to Christ all the more.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Valuing Wisdom

Is wisdom in demand? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Ecclesiastes 7:11-13 reads:

Wisdom is good with an inheritance,
an advantage to those who see the sun.
12 For the protection of wisdom is like the protection of money,
and the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom preserves the life of him who has it.
13 Consider the work of God:
who can make straight what he has made crooked?

Do you know what economics is the study of? If you said money, you’re wrong.

Economics is the study of scarcity and demand.

Unfortunately in our world, we have a lot of demand for wisdom and there’s a great scarcity.

Knowledge and wisdom are different. You can have a lot of knowledge and be a fool in the area of wisdom. Wisdom is knowing the right way to live. Knowledge can be a part of that, but if you have knowledge and don’t have wisdom, you will likely do more harm than good.

In this case, the Teacher talks about money and says that wisdom is good with an inheritance. What good does it do you to have a lot of money if you don’t know the proper way to use it? This is the case when you have people who win the lottery and their lives become worse instead of better. Some of you might say that playing the lottery is wrong either way, but aside from that, the same could be said for people who receive a huge inheritance suddenly and don’t know the proper usage and handling of money.

If you know how to use money properly, you can do a great deal of good with it. (Say, donate to my Patreon?) Keep in mind this doesn’t mean just throwing money at every problem. There can be a great danger in just giving money to people who don’t know how to use it as you can be shortcutting them in harmful ways. I recommend When Helping Hurts on that front.

If you have knowledge, wisdom helps there too. I hate to say it as someone in a PhD program, but sometimes people with PhDs can be really dumb. Why? Because that knowledge does not mean that you have wisdom. Meanwhile, there can be a little old lady in your church who might not have even graduated from high school and yet is a fount of wisdom.

Wisdom will help guide you in how to live. It will help you learn what your goals in life should be and how to best pursue them. It will help you learn to make wise decisions as well.

How do you get wisdom? One way is to learn the fear of God. It’s also to learn from those around you. Read good books that will challenge you. Listen to people who are older and wiser. I have a team of allies around me personally that when I struggle with something, I go to one of them. I also have a therapist which is immensely helpful.

Job taught us the value of seeking wisdom comparing it to silver and gold mined from the Earth. We are told to forsake all else in the pursuit of wisdom.

Perhaps we should listen. We can start having the supply to meet the demand.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

The Good Old Days

Should you wish to live then? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Ecclesiastes 7:10 reads:

Say not, “Why were the former days better than these?”
For it is not from wisdom that you ask this.

No generation is perfect. Every culture has its vices. Every culture has its virtues. It’s easy to look at some things that people did in the past and consider them ridiculous. Sometimes, some people look at them as worse. How many feminists think the 50’s were a time of great oppression for women?

Do I wish we had more of the morality today that we had back then? Yes, but we also have many things today that we didn’t have at all back then. I live in New Orleans and my parents are in Knoxville, Tennessee, but every day I can get on a device on the arm of my couch and communicate with them so that we can see each other.

I suspect many of us enjoy other advances in medicine and other areas. We have cures for diseases that killed millions in the past. Centuries ago, the Bubonic Plague was a death sentence. Today, it’s easily treatable. Hopefully, someday in the near future a doctor will tell a patient he has cancer only to hear, “Whew! For awhile I was afraid it would be something serious!”

Our means for studying Scripture and other forms of literature are far better. Imagine how much the ancients would have loved to have done a quick search of all ancient literature to see when one word showed up. Imagine what it would have been like to be easily able to see how many times the word “love” shows up in the Bible. We can do all of that.

We have far better ministry options to us now. We can print and publish more than ever. We can go on YouTube and make videos to share the gospel with people all over the world. It’s a wonder to think what the apostle Paul would have done with all that we have.

Our entertainment options are far better. I remember watching reruns of the Adam West Batman series with my Dad and thinking how amusing it is to see it announced “In color.” The video game industry has far better stories and immersion than before. With YouTube now also, you can go and watch clips of anything you enjoy easily and listen to music as well.Thanks to streaming, I can watch old TV shows and movies that I never got to see and I don’t have to please be kind and rewind.

Do we have a lot of problems? Definitely! We have abortion, marriage re-defined, pornography being everywhere, concerns about AI, everything.

However, Acts 17 tells us God appointed the times and places each of us should live. Why are you here? Because this is the time and place you were appointed to be. Is there something good from the past you wish we still had? Work to bring it back. Is there a problem you see today? Work to make it better.

Don’t yearn to live in the past, though. It’s impossible and a wasted effort. Do what you can today.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Evil Begats Evil

What comes from evil? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Today, we’re looking at Ecclesiastes 7:7-9.

Surely oppression drives the wise into madness,
and a bribe corrupts the heart.
8 Better is the end of a thing than its beginning,
and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.
9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry,
for anger lodges in the heart of fools.

I was recently watching Supergirl, seeing as I missed out on a lot of TV shows in my marriage, and I noticed something. Many supervillains seem to form a fixation on the hatred of those who they think wronged them. Sometimes, they did. Of course, we have all been wronged and hurt by other people.

The difference with supervillains is they get so fixated on the other person, even if that person was entirely in the wrong, that they think the only solution to their problem is if they eliminate the other person. It doesn’t reveal strength, but rather weakness. Revenge has become such a motivating factor in their life that they think the only path forward is to fulfill it. No one else sees what must be done and how it must be done.

That could be something similar to what the Teacher says. Oppression drives people to madness. Generally, if an employer mistreats an employee, a parent a child, a spouse another spouse, or a teacher a student, that person on the receiving end will come out worse for it. Some people do overcome to defy the person, but a lot don’t.

A bribe also corrupts. We can see that in politics. Once you become beholden to donors, then you can get put in a position where you will do anything.

Better to be patient and finish something than to start pridefully and not finish. (As I say this, I have several unfinished projects I need to do someday.) There is a danger in biting off more than you can chew. This is something Jesus warns against in Luke 14 when He tells us to count the cost before choosing to undergo something.

The Teacher also has a word about anger. He does not condemn all anger, as anger is not always wrong, but he does say that you should not be quick to become angry. Once you get angry, you can think you already know who is the good guy and who is the bad guy and what needs to be done and are beyond listening to reason at that point. Again, it seems amazing how much that is said in this book can relate to our political discourse today. There are some things that should make you angry, but you should also always strive to be in control even when you are angry.

The more I go through this book, it is amazing how much Ecclesiastes speaks to our modern times, how much wisdom it holds, and how much it is a much more positive book than I had originally thought. I encourage readers to try to approach Ecclesiastes with new eyes. Go through it slowly. There’s a lot there that can surprise you.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Accepting Rebukes

Can you take criticism? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Today, we look at Ecclesiastes 7:5-6.

It is better for a man to hear the rebuke of the wise
than to hear the song of fools.
6 For as the crackling of thorns under a pot,
so is the laughter of the fools;
this also is vanity.

Honestly, I hate being wrong.

I know I have been wrong several times in my life, but I don’t like it. What is even harder at times is when someone else sees it and points it out. That’s pretty painful. We’ve all been there. Some people can take it easier than others. My hating it is a problem that I need to work on.

Right now in the PhD program, my big struggle is academic writing. The content of my work is there. The form it is presented in is lacking. Over this past semester, I had to har a lot of things from other people on how my writing needed to be improved in this area. Some things I do not think will change. I struggle if I make an outline as my thinking becomes disjointed in that case. When I just start writing and let it flow, it comes out better.

Yet sometimes, I still struggle. I don’t know what needs to be further emphasized and what doesn’t. I do have a team of people that I send my writings to to get feedback in this area, and if you want to be on that team, let me know. Fortunately, my professors in the midst of giving feedback also always gave encouragement. Either way, I had to sit and listen and realize that I had a lot of work to do, and still do.

Part of it is realizing that these people really do care about me and believe in me. There is still a lot of insecurity in me, no doubt, a lot of that comes from being divorced. When I would talk to my professors, I would try to always have our conversations end on a note of encouragement.

In our day and age, people cannot take criticism and it has reached the point where saying anything critical is perceived as an attack. People have this idea many times that they are above being criticized. This leads to an axiom I have in interactions with people. If I meet someone who cannot accept that they are wrong in anything, I have no reason to think that they are right in anything. There are many people I know who would rather commit ritual suicide than to admit that they got something wrong.

When people come into your life who really care about you and they tell you you are wrong on something, try to accept it as coming from a place of love. Maybe they are wrong in their opinion, but it should be considered. If the person is an enemy, they are not coming from a place of love, but they could still be right. Take it into consideration and go to someone you trust and ask. Being criticized is not the worst thing in the world. Being stuck in a wrong opinion is far worse.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)

Everything You Know Is Wrong

Does the Teacher reverse matters? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

Readers of Ecclesiastes 7:1-4 could be surprised this is in the Bible:

A good name is better than precious ointment,
and the day of death than the day of birth.
2 It is better to go to the house of mourning
than to go to the house of feasting,
for this is the end of all mankind,
and the living will lay it to heart.
3 Sorrow is better than laughter,
for by sadness of face the heart is made glad.
4 The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning,
but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth.

Jehovah’s Witnesses often make a big deal out of the “name” of God, missing the point as if what matters is phonetics, what the name is and how it is pronounced. The importance of a name was more the reputation of the one. When God says He wants His name known, He does not want people to call Him Jehovah or YHWH instead of Bob. He means that He wants His honor and glory to be known throughout the world.

What do these statements mean though about the day of death being better than the day of birth? Why does the Teacher prefer a house of mourning to a house of feasting? Who would prefer to have sorrow instead of laughter?

We have seen a number of times where the Teacher tells us to enjoy our lives. Thus, he is not opposed to enjoyment. What is being said is a general principle. The Teacher realizes that life contains much suffering and sorrow. Birth is when that starts and death is the day it supposedly ends. There is a reason people commit suicide after all. They want their suffering to end.

There is no wrong in pleasure, but there is a wrong in acting like life is all about temporary pleasures. We can easily think of the parable of the grasshopper and the ant. The ant worked hard in the warmer weather to prepare for when the winter came. The grasshopper took no thought in that and hopped around regularly without a care in the world. When the winter came, it was the ant who survived.

The Teacher then wants us to look at reality. In our day and age, it’s easy for twenty-somethings, or even people my age in our forties, to think that we will live forever. Unfortunately, it could happen to any of us at any moment. We’ve all heard of stories of people cut down in the prime of life. They had their whole futures ahead of them and then, game over.

So by all means yes, enjoy your life, but also be realistic. Do not take your life for granted. Realize that there will come a time when it will end. While Christians do have something they can look forward to, that doesn’t mean we should not take life seriously here. The Teacher reminds us of how important life here is.

In Christ,
Nick Peters
(And I affirm the virgin birth)